Loved reading your thoughts on this and how you’ve connected the dots between our relationship with trends and the feelings that come up. “In many ways, it’s easy to feel judged for both participating in trends and not participating in trends.” To me, the judgement for participating in a trend always feels harsher than that of sitting one out. That’s why when I’m writing about a trend I’m loving, I sometimes feel compelled to preface it with “I know it may be overdone, but…” Seems so silly to feel the need to defend something I love to wear, trend or not.
You also brought up some good points on embodiment vs. emulation. I love shopping and clothes but am no way a stylist, so it helps to look to others for inspiration on how to put things together. I’ve definitely bought into trends that didn’t feel like me (parachute pants!) but I think going through that trial and error has helped me be more reflective of my choices. While I still look to others for ideas and recommendations, I feel like I’m now starting to get a better grasp of what trends would actually work for me and how to make them my own.
You articulate this so well, Kelly! I feel a constant pull of desiring belonging (and also often being quite inspired by ladies who have great takes on trends) and the push of not want to “succumb” to trends. I can’t stop myself from feeling both, so I have to get better at picking what makes sense for me/my style/budget/life/etc. and that’s a little bit science and a little bit art (because some of this is highly emotional!) love reading this one!!!
That TikTok 😂 Love a striped sweater, though ❤️ I went shopping in person this week, and it was so refreshing. I am totally swearing off online shopping. Love your thoughts, and you don’t sound judgmental at all!
Agree 100% on in person shopping. I’m also actually not sure you can teach somebody how to ‘embody not emulate’. I think that makes the difference between someone who is genuinely stylish and someone who just follows trends. Loved your newsletter as always. Thanks Kelly!
YES re: the difference between embodying and emulating! There's a difference for sure, and you're giving me a lot to think about.
So interesting that when that IG 2024 Trend Talk mentioned Gen Z's, they talked about them "filling their closets" with things that are more in line with their core aesthetics. The language they use is fascinating, and I'm wondering whether this current vibe of everyone trying to find their own personal taste might be just another excuse to keep buying more and more stuff... I'm intrigued!
Loved reading your thoughts on this and how you’ve connected the dots between our relationship with trends and the feelings that come up. “In many ways, it’s easy to feel judged for both participating in trends and not participating in trends.” To me, the judgement for participating in a trend always feels harsher than that of sitting one out. That’s why when I’m writing about a trend I’m loving, I sometimes feel compelled to preface it with “I know it may be overdone, but…” Seems so silly to feel the need to defend something I love to wear, trend or not.
You also brought up some good points on embodiment vs. emulation. I love shopping and clothes but am no way a stylist, so it helps to look to others for inspiration on how to put things together. I’ve definitely bought into trends that didn’t feel like me (parachute pants!) but I think going through that trial and error has helped me be more reflective of my choices. While I still look to others for ideas and recommendations, I feel like I’m now starting to get a better grasp of what trends would actually work for me and how to make them my own.
You articulate this so well, Kelly! I feel a constant pull of desiring belonging (and also often being quite inspired by ladies who have great takes on trends) and the push of not want to “succumb” to trends. I can’t stop myself from feeling both, so I have to get better at picking what makes sense for me/my style/budget/life/etc. and that’s a little bit science and a little bit art (because some of this is highly emotional!) love reading this one!!!
That TikTok 😂 Love a striped sweater, though ❤️ I went shopping in person this week, and it was so refreshing. I am totally swearing off online shopping. Love your thoughts, and you don’t sound judgmental at all!
Agree 100% on in person shopping. I’m also actually not sure you can teach somebody how to ‘embody not emulate’. I think that makes the difference between someone who is genuinely stylish and someone who just follows trends. Loved your newsletter as always. Thanks Kelly!
great examples with Leandra and Mrs. Solomon on Style - love both!
So spot on. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and putting a finger on how I’ve been feeling lately. It truly is a minefield!
YES re: the difference between embodying and emulating! There's a difference for sure, and you're giving me a lot to think about.
So interesting that when that IG 2024 Trend Talk mentioned Gen Z's, they talked about them "filling their closets" with things that are more in line with their core aesthetics. The language they use is fascinating, and I'm wondering whether this current vibe of everyone trying to find their own personal taste might be just another excuse to keep buying more and more stuff... I'm intrigued!